Isn't the ancestry matching opt-in? At the very minimum, I'm pretty sure you can opt out when you give your sample.
In that case, if you do have a match, obviously both people will have to be notified of the other's identity. It sounds like you want to see whether you have relatives before the relatives get to see it. How is that fair?
Also are you sure these other people are getting your identity? How do you know it's not masking your identity to these only people which only gets unmasked if you accept/reply to the request?
I could opt out, but I really do want to know my ancestry information. My objection is them sharing my information before I even get a chance to look at it. It's like if you had a baby, but the nurse and doctor published your baby's photo on Facebook before handing you your baby. Why should anyone get to see my information before I do? And then they get to contact me before I even know why they're contacting me? That's bizarre to me.
At this point, I have my information and now that I have it, I'm okay with sharing it, because it's my information to do what I wish. But they were sharing it before they shared it with me, and that's not okay, imo.
But if the information is "here are other people you might be related to", it's not your information; it's both people's. I just don't understand how that can be revealed to you first without being unfair to the person on the other side of the coin, or why it's such a big deal if the reveal doesn't happen at exactly the same time.
Sure. The problem is that I'm getting _requests_ from people I don't know based on _information_ I don't have, and I don't like that _they_ have information about myself that I don't have. And since _they_ have the information, then there's absolutely no reason why _I_ can't have the same information at the same time.
In that case, if you do have a match, obviously both people will have to be notified of the other's identity. It sounds like you want to see whether you have relatives before the relatives get to see it. How is that fair?
Also are you sure these other people are getting your identity? How do you know it's not masking your identity to these only people which only gets unmasked if you accept/reply to the request?